Based on your answers in the application and what I hear in our introductory call, I’ll suggest a starting point. You don’t have to figure it all out ahead of time—I’ll guide the process, and we’ll find the right place to begin together.

On each page of my site, you’ll see a Work With Me button that will take you to a Typeform application.

It takes about 7–10 minutes to complete. I invite you to answer thoughtfully and honestly—this is your chance to make a first impression and to help me understand what you are seeking in our time together.

I consider it a sign of respect and sincerity when someone takes time and care with their responses. That care tells me a lot about how someone will show up in this work.

Trust and safety are the foundation of this work — for both of us.

My vetting process includes a short phone call so I can get to know you, hear about your desires for our time together, and make sure that what you’re seeking is something I can genuinely offer. I ask for ID and a deposit to book the session. The vetting process for new-to-me clients typically takes 24-48 hours.

Yes. Your personal information, including your name, identity, and anything you share in conversation or during sessions, is kept strictly confidential.

I follow the same standards of confidentiality that I was trained in through my clinical chaplaincy and spiritual care work. That means what is shared in this space stays in this space. I do not share client names, details, or identifying information with others.

If you ever have questions about privacy, boundaries, or how information is handled, I’m happy to talk about that directly so you feel clear and comfortable.

I strive to respond to applications in a timely manner, typically within 48 hours during the work week. (I usually don’t do email on weekends, and response times may be longer if I’m traveling or in training.)

If it’s been more than 48 hours since you submitted your application, you’re welcome to send a brief follow-up email to TheVelvetThreshold@proton.me.

Just as with confidentiality, consent is a foundational and non-negotiable part of my work. These sessions only go as far as your yes and my yes allow.

Every session begins with conversation to discuss desires, fears and boundaries. Those coming in for a BDSM scene will get a Preference & Consent form to fill out. I move slowly, even with people who are experienced, because many of us have had situations in our lives where we felt pressured, rushed, or unsure how to ask for an adjustment, or to say no. Part of this work is learning the skills to notice what you’re feeling, communicate it, and make adjustments in real time.

Consent is a set of mutual agreements about how we engage during our time together. My role is not to push you toward any particular experience or to get you to say yes to more things. The goal is not more yes. It’s a clearer, more honest yes and a clearer, more confident no.

With time and trust, some find that their comfort and curiosity grow, and something that once felt like a no may shift. When that happens, it comes from your own readiness, not from pressure. I meet you where you are, and I respect what is true for you in the moment.